It's because a house becomes a home emotionally in a matter of seconds, that it's really important to become pre-qualified for your mortgage and to be shopping for homes that fit your specific criteria. Falling in love with a home you can't afford or that doesn't fit your needs makes walking away from that home terribly difficult. All other house candidates will be compared to the one you first loved. When your real estate agent assigns homework of getting pre-qualified for your mortgage and writing down what you want in a house, take the assignment seriously. There are many lovely homes out there that might call to your heart strings. Finagling to purchase a home for more than you wanted to pay or talking yourself into a house that doesn't have the dining room you required, becomes a problem when the house honeymoon is over. It's tempting to shop indiscriminately but if you purchase one of those too expensive or "not quite right" homes, falling out of love is easy to do! Financial struggles or serving a family meal on TV trays everyday tarnishes the first love you once felt for the home. Do your homework. Stay focused. Buy what meets your current criteria. Your love for your first smaller home will prepare you to move up to that bigger dream house of the future.